Penny wrote:Come on Laurie, how many men and women act their best when courting, no need to act when wed. you talk about monosyllabic grunts, well lots of us end up with that permanently... cheers Penny
As I said, Penny, depends a bit on your view of marriage.
I certainly didn't "act" while courting, though obviously on your best behaviour on a first date, and if my wife acted she certainly kept it up fairly well for some fifty odd years!
The only difference in our behaviour in the first years of our relationship and tnose before her second stroke after thirty odd years, which obviously did make us change a bit, was that our caresses were a bit more intimate!
She never heard me break wind or swear (and after 40 years service I could swear in any NATO language and many others!), I always walked on the outside, was below her on steps and stairs and held open doors. She never opened the car door (unless it was a race for the loo, which of course she always won).
If she was spending the evening with me, i.e. when I left work, she was invariably bathed, changed and made up, and if I was spending the evening with her, i.e. when I left work, I would invariably wash, shave (with aftershave!) and change just as we did when we were courting.
She was as likely in 1963, to throw a cushion on the floor and sit with her head in my lap so that I could play with her hair, as she was in 1993.
After thirty years of marriage after coming off the backshift one night I got her out of bed at half past midnight and stove her a couple of miles to the top of a hill to the "moonpath" across the Forth, just as, while courting, we had sat on the Barrowfields in Newquay and watched stretch out into the Atlantic.
When our worktimes coincided, or when I was off, I would invariably meet her from work or from any ladies. function she had been to.
No, there was no acting Penny. We may have matured, but we didn't change.